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Jan 11

What Is A Healthy Diet For Pregnant Women?

Let’s remember that nobody can know more about your health, than your own family doctor and any suggestions here must not replace any advice given by your doctor. Your doctor will know what is a healthy diet for you when you are pregnant. Everybody is different and every pregnancy is different. The doctors advice is the best to take and the following are guidelines only.

Getting a well balanced diet is not only important for the pregnant women but for her unborn baby as well. The saying “eating for two” jumps into mind and visions of a fat pregnant women stuffing herself with all the food she can get in her mouth. Of course, her doing so shows a total disregard for herself and her unborn child.

Eating a healthy diet the pregnant women is not only looking after herself, which isn’t a bad idea, but also she is building a strong foundation for the health of the unborn child. This being what all mothers want for their children, a strong healthy start to life can be reflected on how healthy the mother is during pregnancy. Of course sometimes this can be out with her control due to many other factors too numerous to mention here.

Over eating can be a mistake easily made by the mother to be and she should refrain from such a habit. Not only is this an unhealthy practice but can lead to weight problems during and after pregnancy. It’s easier to keep the weight off rather than having to fight to get it off later. The new baby in your life will keep you occupied enough without you having to worry about losing weight.

When feeling a bit peeved or frustrated fight the urge to have chocolate cake, during pregnancy, which will only make you gain weight that will be rather more difficult to lose later on. Try snacking on a bit of fruit or have a bowl of muesli, even beans on toast would be a better alternative.

The healthy diet for a pregnant women referred to here, is not one for you to lose weight rather to eat healthily for you and obviously for your unborn child. What food should you eat to stay healthy? Well, the obvious foods would be fresh fruit and vegetables. Remember that dark green vegetables are rich in iron and should always be part of at least the main meal of the day.

Vitamin supplements are used in conjunction with food not as an alternative, people tend to forget that natural food has an abundance of nutrients that you can only get through a balanced healthy diet. Staying away from sweets seems like common sense but if you are accustomed to the odd sweet or two then you may have to build up your willpower to refrain from eating them.

Being pregnant means the food you eat is kept in your intestines for longer. This is caused by hormones in your system that prevent you going into labour early and means you get more nutrition absorbed into your system. Keeping constipation at bay could easily be done by drinking lots of fluids. Your body’ s system needs frequently flushed out.

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Jan 11

A Baby Heart Rate Monitor Will Put Your Mind at Rest

There are not many things in life that can compare to the birth of your first child. It’s one of those memories that will forever live with you… Still, every woman has to endure a 9 month pregnancy and then a painful labor to experience that magical moment.

Up until recently the only way you could witness the development of your unborn baby was to wait until a trimester, and if you were lucky, witness for the first time on camera your developing baby. You would have also had the chance to hear for the first time you baby’s heartbeat which again is a truly amazing experience.

The trouble is that you could only experience these brief miracles just the once and only at the hospital or surgery.

Thankfully thanks to modern technology that has all changed, as for the first time you can either rent or purchase your very own baby heart rate monitor and constantly listen to the unmistakably sound of the life that’s growing inside of you over and over again.

The benefits are obvious, not least as reassurance to you that your baby is developing between the infrequent visits to the hospital.

There are a few different types of baby heart rate monitors that are readily available. The best of which is the Doppler style which mimics the ones used at the hospital. They work with a probe that is connected to the main unit. All you need to do is rub some gel over your tummy and on the end of the probe. Then simply move the probe around your abdomen area until you hear your baby’s heartbeat.

In chase you are not familiar with the sound to listen for, it’s kind of like a fast passed ’swoosh-swoosh’ noise. Your baby’s heartbeat should be able to be heard from about 12 weeks into your pregnancy depending on the model that you choose.

Other key features that you should look out for is the ability of the heart rate monitor to output directly, so you and your partner can both listen both at the same time, together with the option of listening privately by means of headphones so you can listen privately day or night without disturbing anybody.

Also make sure that the model you choose does actually come with gel. You’d be amazed how many manufactures actually neglect to include this with their baby heart rate monitors.

Some of the newer models actually have the ability to record your baby’s heartbeat too. We believe this to be an invaluable feature as you will be able to connect the baby heartbeat monitor directly to your computer, meaning you will be able to save you baby’s heartbeat as a file and email it to family and friends.

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Jan 11

Need Help to Get Pregnant? Use These Simple Tips If You Want to Become Pregnant Fast

There are many women who dream about getting pregnant. At some point in their lives, a couple will hope for a beautiful baby. It is becoming very common that once the couple starts trying for a baby they get no results. This can be very hard on both people and can lead to depression because they feel as if they have failed. Follow these tips if you need help to get pregnant.

There is a pattern that you must follow in your sex life if you really want to get pregnant. Your menstrual cycle is the force behind this pattern. You need to pay attention to your cycle so you will know when you are ovulating.

You are more likely to get a positive result if you have sexual intercourse while the female partner is ovulating. You will want to look for signs that show you are at the peak of fertility for that month. Two of the most obvious signs are:

The first thing you need to know is when you are ovulating. You will know you are ovulating when you see mucous secretion from your cervix. When you are at the peak of your fertility it will look like an egg white and become very stretchy. If you really want to get pregnant you should have sex when your body is doing this.

Another thing you need to do is check your body temperature each morning is another way to check for fertility. Your body temperature will decrease slightly when you are going to ovulate. When trying to conceive a baby you should be aware of this. You will always want to be fit and healthy. You need to keep a healthy body weight and eat well. Your odds of getting pregnant are increased with a healthy lifestyle.

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Jan 11

Pregnancy Sleeping – Back and Tummy Sleepers Need to Flip on Their Side

There are so many unexpected things that expectant mothers need to watch out for. Who would of thought, when you first got pregnant, that you would even have to worry about pregnancy sleeping. Back sleeping, however, is one more thing you will want to avoid when you are pregnant. But do not worry; it is actually quite easy to maintain the proper sleeping position that will support the health of both you and your baby.

Early on in pregnancy you will want to get in the habit of sleeping on your side, specifically your left side. This position is actually recommended by pediatric sleep experts because it actually is healthy for you and your baby.

Sleeping on your left side improved the flow of blood and nutrients to the placenta. It also keeps weight off of vital organs allowing them to better do their job, particularly your kidneys. It also keeps weight off of your liver, which is on the right side of your body.

As your baby begins to grow you want to avoid sleeping on your back to keep the full weight of your baby off of the spine, back muscles, and the inferior vena cava (this is the large vein that carries blood to your lower body). Back-sleeping puts you at a higher risk for backaches, hemorrhoids, and poor blood circulation.

Ok, so now you know why it is important to avoid sleeping on your back and, instead, sleep on your left side during pregnancy. But for some mothers that can be easier said than done. Some women find it difficult to stay on their left side; they may toss and turn or find that position uncomfortable or unnatural to them. They may also feel an uncomfortable “tugging” from the weight of their baby.

All of these can be resolved by using a maternity pillow. What is a maternity pillow you ask? It is basically, a large pillow specially designed to offer support to the growing tummy, help maintain the side sleeping position, and to add comfort to pregnancy sleeping. Back sleeping is avoided as the maternity pillow gently keeps the pregnant mother to be in the side sleeping position.

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Jan 11

All About Twins

After seeing the Parent Trap, who wasn’t fascinated with twins and the connection between them? Some twins seem to have telepathic powers between them, while others are complete opposites. Perhaps taking an in-depth look at twins will help parents of twins and us non-twins understand the mysteries behind the pairs.

There are two types of twins: identical and fraternal. Identical twins will pretty much always look, well, identical because they share the exact same genes. Fraternal twins usually look different, but they can look identical as well. An example of this is Mary-Kate and Ashley Olsen: fraternal twins who appear identical.

Identical twins form when a single fertilized egg splits into two separate beings. Because they come from one egg, identical twins have the same genes, leading to their identical physical features, blood type, and gender. Because of slight changes in gene expression and environmental factors, there can be slight alterations in physical features that allow you to tell identical twins apart. Also, identical twins will have different finger prints and separate personalities and identities.

Fraternal twins happen when two eggs get fertilized at once. Because no two eggs and no two sperm are exactly alike, fraternal twins have a variety of genetic traits between them. Fraternal siblings can both be the same sex or one boy, one girl. Also, genetic disorders present in one twin may not be present in the other. For example, dwarfism, or androplasia, is inherited. Therefore, a set of fraternal twins can have one dwarfed child and another child of normal height.

Some estimates say that the prevalence of twins is on the rise-a 74% increase in twin births since 1980. What is causing the rise in multiple births? Well, there are a few things that can increase a mother’s chances for having twins. This includes getting pregnant later in life, familial predisposition for twins, and fertility drugs. Also, your race and the amount of times you have been pregnant previously can affect your chances of having twins.

Twin births are always determined to be “high risk” pregnancies. For example, women pregnant with multiple children often have a higher rate of miscarriage than those with single births. Regarding the twins themselves, there are a number of factors that can affect them more than with a single birth. Twins are at higher risk to be born prematurely, which can include a lower birth rate. Also, cerebral palsy is more common in twins than in singletons. Lastly, twins can become entangled in each other’s umbilical cords, resulting in strangulation.

For more information on birth injuries that can affect both twins and single births, check out Lowenthal & Abrams, PC, a law firm specializing in birth injury law in the Philadelphia area.

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Jan 11

Morning Sickness Relief With Herbs

If you’ve come seeking a morning sickness remedy for yourself or someone you love, I’m wishing you a mild case. I know people who have had extreme cases of morning sickness, and personally, I was blessed with only mild nausea and no vomiting during each of my first trimesters.

What worked for me during my first pregnancy was taking homeopathic nux vomica 6x any time I started feeling nauseas. This was completely infective during my second pregnancy, however. Ginger tea was more helpful this second time around.

Susan Weed, in The Childbearing Year suggests taking it in tablespoon doses when you feel nauseas.

When considering the morning sickness remedy that is right for you, it may be useful to look at the factors that are contributing to your particular case.

Some factors that have been identified include low blood sugar, low blood pressure, chemical by-products of the increased hormonal activity, a vitamin B6 deficiency, excess of refined, spicy or greasy foods, and emotional upset about the pregnancy. In my case, I also think my activity level played a role.

During my second pregnancy I was in a very busy time in my life, and I did not get enough rest during my first trimester and my nausea was much worse.

There are several things you can do to help prevent morning sickness.

?Keep your blood sugar level up by eating small, frequent meals and protein-rich snacks before going to sleep.

?Walking a mile a day can help prevent the increased hormonal activity leading to morning sickness.

?Increasing iron and vitamin B6 complex in your diet can also help. My recommendation for this is including nettles in your diet and drinking an infusion of nettle and oatstraw daily. Nettle is an excellent source of iron and oatstraw contains the B6 complex vitamins.

Place 1D2 ounce of each herb in a quart jar. Fill with boiling water and let steep for at least 4 hours. Strain and drink room temperature, heated or chilled.

Prevention is a powerful morning sickness remedy.

Several preventative measures are possible just before getting out of bed in the morning as a morning sickness remedy:

?Eating unsalted crackers or matzo

?Getting out of bed slowly and avoiding sudden movements

?Drinking a cup of anise or fennel seed tea first thing after waking

?Drinking on teaspoon of apple cider vinegar in 8 oz. of warm water first thing in the morning. The vinegar neutralizes the excess stomach acid.

Here is a morning sickness remedy breakfast idea:

1. Stay in bed for 1D2 hour after waking.
2. Sip a digestive tea of peppermint, fennel, or chamomile or a glass of mineral water with crackers before getting out of bed.
3. Rise slowly.
4. Eat fresh fruit or drink juice.
5. Breathe in some fresh air.
6. 1D2 hour later, eat a piece of wholegrain toast with nutritional yeast, and a second cup of herbal tea.

Now, if all the preventative methods are not making a difference for you, here are some morning sickness remedies to try once you are feeling nauseous.

This is Susan Weed’s list from The Childbearing Year and is in order of increasing strength for morning sickness relief:

?Open the wind or go outside for fresh air.

?Drink a cup or two raspberry leaf tea or infusion each day.

?Try a homeopathic morning sickness remedy: Ipecac 30X, Nux Vomica 6X, Cannabis 30X

?Drink a tea from Peach tree leaves.

?Sip peppermint or spearmint infusion first thing in the morning as a morning sickness remedy. It’s stimulating and an effective anti-nauseate.

?Tablespoon doses of ginger root tea when nausea occurs for morning sickness relief.

?Wild yam root infusion sipped throughout the day, or teaspoonfuls of the decoction (simmer a handful of the root in a quart of water for 20 minutes) several times daily.

?Powdered and encapsulated ginger roots up to 25 capsules per day for complete control of severe nausea and vomiting throughout the pregnancy.

I recently read about a study showing that morning sickness often occurs just after the baby has gone through its most sensitive period of development, and that the nausea may be leading to aversions to meat, fish, eggs, poultry, and strong tasting vegetables in order to keep potentially harmful chemicals and bacteria from the mom and baby and to keep them both safe from food-borne illness during this critical time.

This study found that morning sickness is uncommon in cultures with vegetarian and low dairy diets.

So, perhaps the nausea is actually serving us well, even though it is not always pleasant. As a wise woman herbalist I always look for the gift in the condition I’m experiencing.

In my second pregnancy, my nausea was a constant reminder to take it slow and relax so that I could grow a healthy baby.

As your baby grows within you, enjoy the morning sickness relief provided by these home remedies and remember and trust the wisdom of your body.

I hope you find a morning sickness remedy that works for you.

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Nov 10

Parenting an Only Child

I can remember my mother’s words when I first brought my newborn daughter home from the hospital. “So…do you think you will have another?” My immediate response was, “No!” It was ten years of infertility and thirty hours of labor which prompted this obstinate reaction.

Trying to achieve another pregnancy would again put us on that infertility roller coaster we knew all too well. It was only due to the marvelous advancements in the areas of infertility, an excellent team of doctors and specialists who worked with us, and our very highest hopes that we were able to achieve this miracle in our life.

Today, wanting a baby and being able to have a baby are two different things, especially for the older woman. So ingrained in our thinking is the assumption that to parent is natural that we believe becoming pregnant is simply a matter of choosing when. In fact, most fertile couples do not understand the anguish of those who cannot conceive children. One of the most common and insensitive comments made to couples with only one child is, “You should feel lucky that you have at least one child.” Indeed we do! However, to these couples deciding how many children they would like to have is a personal choice governed by birth control. Infertile couples are not lucky enough to have this choice.

Now, three years later, I suddenly find myself wondering if we have made the right decision, to raise an only child. Although we could try the ARTs (Assisted Reproductive Technology) a second time, we have opted to remain a single-child family. Were we depriving her of a richer, more fulfilled family life?

To help us better understand our situation we created a list of pros and cons pertaining to raising one child.

PROS

* no competition or jealousy among siblings
* financially easier to raise one child
* child receives one-on-one attention in family
* there’s no guarantee that a sibling would make life better for her
* inheritance/savings is directed to only one child and therefore she will benefit financially in later life
* parents can spend more quality time with an only child
* no worries about a high risk pregnancy due to mother’s age

CONS

* more difficult to teach sharing and socializing with other children
* parents may feel guilty for not giving the child a brother of sister
* tendency to get too much attention and may become spoiled
* child may feel different because other families have more children
* no sibling to reach out to in later life when parents are gone
* parents may develop unrealistic expectations of an only child

Studies have shown that an only child tends to excel in areas of achievement motivation and self-esteem and aspire to higher levels of education, perhaps because of a more intense child/parent relationship. Researchers believe these children are motivated to high levels of achievement by high expectations from the parents.

By the time the child is three or four years old she becomes aware that many of their friends have new babies in their families. She may ask, “When can I have a baby brother or sister, Mommy?” putting even more pressure and guilt on the parents. At age five and six the child may enjoy going to school to be with other children and when not in school there may be increased pressure on parents to keep the child occupied with suitable playmates. At this age, school becomes more important and offers the child a chance to choose her own friends. Parents should allow plenty of opportunity to ask them home to play or organize friends to stay the night or weekend.

Each stage of parenting a child (with or without siblings) brings new joys as well as new challenges. Parenting two or more children usually means dealing with sibling rivalry at some stage. Parenting a single child can at times create a stressful relationship triangle between mother, father and child. He never has to share his parents with brothers and sisters and may be more dependent on them than a child from a larger family. “Sibling rivalry” is acted out between child and parent rather than child and sibling. If the parents decide to create a united front the child may feel like he is fighting a losing battle and give in too easily. On the other hand, if the parents give in too much to the child, he may always expect to win and get his own way. This could have negative effects as he grows up and learns to interact with peers and other adults outside of the family circle.

Marilyn Turner has been a social worker for over twenty-two years. She has worked with many different kinds of families, including single-child families. “A lot of only children struggle with perfectionism,” she says. “Their natural incline is toward perfectionism because they are always trying to be as good as their parents, rather than comparing themselves to siblings who have not yet perfected anything and are closer to their own learning and growing level. As teenagers, they may give up and become discouraged, developing low self-esteem.” Her expert advice to parents of only children is to help them become better decision makers and try not to compare themselves to their parents. “Onlies are very ’should’ laden, meaning their parents often tell them what they should do or say.”

Gaye Gemmell is an elementary school teacher and is currently teaching grade four. During her many years of teaching she has noticed that only children tend to be more dependent on the teacher in their learning. “They’re generally not used to waiting for their turn and have a need for instant attention. However, they tend to do better in some subjects because they have more help from their parents.” When asked if they work better in groups or on their own Gaye explains, “They seem to work well in groups as long as they get along with the others in the group. Often they lack the conflict resolution skills when they’re in groups.” She concluded by saying that they relate well to adults and express themselves well through a high level of vocabulary.

For those of us who are doing parenting for the first and only time, our choices have overwhelming importance. Having only one child means there is not the chance to make up for our mistakes down the line. There aren’t other children with whom to iron the kinks out. Professionals interviewed on their definition of a good parent warned that what they see over and over are parents who are not setting limits for their children. A parent needs to set boundaries as to what’s okay and not okay to do and to set those limits in a firm but respectful way. Parents of only children should be particularly careful on “over” issues, such as overprotection, overpraising, overtolerance and overindulging.

Thirty to forty years ago the average family consisted of 3 children. In recent years this average has dramatically decreased to only 1.2 children per family as a result of postponed births as women establish their careers, more effective birth control, increasing costs of raising children, and a rise in infertility among men and women. The percentage of one-child families has risen to levels comparable to those of the Depression years, which saw a sharp increase in small families due to economic constraints. The U.S. Census in 2000 revealed one-child families now account for 30 per cent of family units, or 16 million only-children. Census reports also show that 1 in 6 women will be the mother of an only child by the end of her child-bearing years.

Information and advice from other parents can be a great source of inspiration. I spoke to several mothers of only children and here’s what they had to say:

Laurie, a working mother of one five-year-old, has no interest in having more children. “I can’t see myself starting all over again,” she says. “I am more interested in helping an older child as a foster parent. I would also like to focus on my career which would be difficult to do with another baby to raise. Right now I’m very happy focusing all my attention on only one child.”

Amanda, another working mother, had her first baby when she was 38 with the help of assisted reproductive technology. Her child is now three, and Amanda would like to have another. But she accepts the limitations. “If I do not conceive soon,” she says simply, “we will be just as happy raising our only daughter.”

Grace is a stay-at-home mom who is raising an active five-year-old. “I find it difficult to keep up with the social demands of an only child. Before my daughter was in school I took in a child during the day as a playmate for her. Now she’s in school half days and the social interaction still isn’t enough for her. She still wants a playmate for the other half of the day. I also enroll her in extracurricular activities to keep her interactive with other children. Sometimes I think I’m busier with one child than others are with two or three.”

Nicole is a working mother of one two-year-old. She thinks it’s harder to be a stay-at-home mom than it is to be a working mom. “I choose to be a working mother,” she says, “and I find it hard to juggle my time raising one child. We have now employed a full-time nanny to care for our daughter. We’re happy with only one child, it has definite advantages. I have decided to have a tubal ligation to prevent any more pregnancies.”

Parenting is a definite eye-opener. The hardest lessons I’ve learned have been of patience, responsibility, selflessness and being able to see the world through my child’s eyes. I’m thankful for the birth of my daughter. The whole experience has moved me in a way that has greatly enriched my life. I’m confident that our decision to raise an only child is the best one for us and our daughter and I look forward to giving her my unconditional love and devotion for the rest of my life.

Copyright ?2009 by Lisa Azimi

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Nov 10

Your Path to Conception

Prepare your body

You’ve decided you want to have a baby, so why not do things right straightaway and give yourself the best possible chance of conceiving.

Your body’s going to house your growing baby for nine months so you need to make sure it’s a place it’ll enjoy being! If you’re in good shape and feeling fit and well, the chances are you’ll find it easier to conceive and will give your baby the best possible start.

You’ll also need to talk things through with your partner before you begin trying, to make sure you’re both on the same page.

So, we’ve put together some information and advice to help you get your body and your mind baby ready before you even start trying to conceive.

Do your calculations

After you’ve prepared your body, you can start thinking about dates and ovulation.

got all the information you’ll need to work out when you’re ovulating and when you’re at your most fertile so you should get pregnant that bit quicker.

The fun part

So you’ve prepped your body and worked out your fertile dates – now you can start trying for a baby.

It will take the average, fertile couple 5-6 cycles (months) to conceive so the trick is to be patient and keep it fun.

If you focus too much on ‘making a baby’ sex will become a chore, so keep the spark alive with these tips for a fab sex life.

Over coming problems

As we said, it takes the average fertile couple 5-6 months to get pregnant so don’t panic if it doesn’t happen straight away.

You usually need to have been trying for a year before your GP will talk about fertility tests and other options with you, so find out what you can do to help in the meantime and understand why you haven’t conceived yet.

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Sep 10

Get Pregnant & Conceive – An Essential Ingredient For Creating a Baby, Fertility & Getting Pregnant

Getting Pregnant- Essential Ingredient for Pregnancy

Getting pregnant has some core ingredients that are so obvious they are often overlooked. Let us focus first on the wisdom of the male body.

The male contribution to conception and pregnancy is very often undervalued. While a woman’s body is much more involved in the development of the baby, a man’s input is essential to allow this to happen.

But sperm alone is not what a man brings to the equation. He also brings a beautiful message from creation. In order for a man to contribute his sperm to create a baby, he must experience a high level of excitement.

Ejaculation will not occur unless excitement and pleasure are present in the experience. In other words, excitement and enjoyment of the physical are fundamental to creating new life.

They are not side effects, they are part of the energy of creation from which we all came.

Getting Pregnant- How You Can Enhance Your Fertility

You can use this insight to support your fertility now. In your quest to become pregnant and have a baby you can make room for excitement in your fertility plan.

How about choosing to allow more excitement into your life and relationship so that this life giving ingredient becomes part of your fertility story. This might include allowing more fun and spontaneity into your love making but it would also include opening up to a little more adventure in life outside the bedroom. How can you begin to add more of that special ingredient for getting pregnant into your life now?

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Sep 10

Pregnancy and Fertility – Making Sense of Miscarriage and the Silence Around It when Baby Dies

Part of the uncertainty as to how to respond to miscarriage may stem from the age old debate as to when life begins. At what point does it have value? When does the mass of cells deserve to be recognized as a ‘person’. And what about soul?

Responses depend on religious, philosophical or political view points. But because there is no definitive answer to these questions the community doesn’t know whether to interpret miscarriage as the death of a baby or merely the ending of something that might have been.

They look to elders who model ‘right behaviour’ and see that, in general, one does not discuss miscarriage.

The Discomfort of Silence Around Miscarriage

But this results in a dissonance of some sort. It does not feel right to avoid talking about miscarriage, to skirt around the issue of this death. There is a sense of disempowerment in agreeing that this subject cannot be brought out in the open and discussed. One may even experience the sensation of disconnection and withdrawal as the silence around miscarriage becomes unbearable.

But these feelings are familiar. They mimic the greater sense of disconnection and withdrawal we feel as yet again, we play the same tune as those who came before us. Instead of listening to the rumblings of our own intuition and reaching out to those we love, we accept the ‘way things are’ and hold our counsel.

Allowing Miscarriage to Create Community

All too often we are living the programmes of our history, fulfilling the expectations others have about us. So we come to experience that life is hard and that others know best as we rush and race to keep it all together. But always, we are getting prompts from deep within reminding us that there is another way. In reason and logic we trust, until an event occurs that makes us stop, take a step back and reflect.

Miscarriage is one such event. It has a particularly powerful impact on parents, but it also sends ripples throughout the community. In the discomfort of not knowing what to do or say to the bereaved, we are aware of the desire to know exactly how to support those we care about. In our uncertainty, we yearn for clear insight and the ability to understand deeply the significance of this death.

In our disconnection, we seek to be able to connect and feel the power of our supportive presence. We become aware at some level, that we want a world in which we are comfortable with feelings and the expression of emotions.

Further exploration may result in a vision of society in which all life is precious and valued fully at each stage of the journey. Perhaps too, we can feel the urge to open the door of our understanding to the magic and mystery of creation and allow a new joyful way of being to enter into our consciousness.

Miscarriage matters. It shakes us at the roots. If we allow it, miscarriage can help us to recognise how we want to be in the world, what kind of community we want to create and nudge us gently in the direction of our deepest truth.

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