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30
Jan 10

Bad Behavior in Children – Is it Really Bad?

If you find that you are yelling and getting angry with your child more often than you would like, you may be looking at some ways to handle bad behavior in children. The first thing you need to keep in mind when you need to handle a behavior situation is that a child is a person. A child is a young adult that hasn’t grown up yet. They know more and feel more than we can ever realize. Just the atmosphere in a home that is not at a high level can affect the child in ways that we do not know about.

Is there really such a thing as bad behavior in children or is it really just misguided behavior that needs a quick correction? If we are going to label and behavior as bad then what is to stop the child from differentiating the label of bad behavior from bad child? There really are no bad children, and by using the word bad as often as we do, we may be putting a label on the child by association. Indeed children can do many things that can be very frustrating and tiresome, but in the end there are no bad children and let’s stop calling it bad behavior in children, especially in front of them.

If the child has a behavior habit that is not optimal such as screaming and yelling if he doesn’t get his way, then this is definitely a behavior that needs to be modified. The first thing to do when handling it is to sit down when the child is calm and discussing it with them. The worst mistake that a parent can make is to sit down and have a calm rational talk while the child is screaming. Let the child finish the screaming, it won’t kill you to listen to it one more time, and wait an hour or two until the child is very content doing something else and talk to him. This so-called bad behavior in children can usually be talked through.

If you are looking to correct bad behavior in children the first thing you need to do is stop calling it bad behavior. The next thing you need to do is really talk to your child and let him know what you think about this behavior. This needs to be done at a time following an incident.Remember never loose your temper take a big breath count to ten then give the child a hug.It may not work the first time but if you are patient it will work.In most cases the child is just looking for attention so give it to them.A hug will get you a lot farther than screaming and loosing your temper.

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19
Nov 08

5 Steps To Healing A Broken Heart

A broken heart. Many have been afflicted, but few actually understand any clear cut path to recovery. Such an approach or lack thereof often leads to endless amounts of pain and suffering. It has also been discovered that if left unchecked, a broken heart can actually prove to be more damaging than cigarette smoke, a high cholesterol diet, or even a marriage to Kevin Federline.

So ask yourself this…are you absolutely sure you know how to recover from a broken heart? If not, then I’d suggest you pay close attention to The 5 Steps To Healing A Broken Heart. This should prove to be more effective than the time I taught Bob Dole how to shake with his left hand.

#1-Remember That You Are Somebody!!!

Many times when suffering an emotional setback, it’s easy to lose sight of your self-worth. Doing so is probably an even bigger mistake than me buying O.J. that pair of gloves for Christmas. So don’t be so hard on yourself. Instead, continue to reinforce all of your positive qualities, and stop blaming yourself for what happened.

#2- Don’t Be Afraid To Let The Tears Flow.

In the words of Justin Timberlake, “Cry Me A River”…please…do it. There are moments when tears can actually express more than any word or phrase ever could. So use the tears as a way to release that negative energy, so you can continue to move forward on the road to recovery.

#3- Don’t Let Your Body Fall Apart

Television has incorrectly reinforced the idea that the perfect cure for heartbreak is to lay in bed and eat a truckload of food. This couldn’t be further from the truth. In fact, you’d probably have a better chance at convincing Osama Bin Laden that the US “just wants to talk,” than to actually get your heart mended by using this method. A rejuvenated mind, body, and spirit is what you need…so get plenty of sleep and exercise while maintaining a balanced diet throughout this process.

#4- Resume Your Day-to-Day Activities

There’s no sense in moping around, feeling sorry for yourself. It’s time to dust yourself off, and return back to some semblance of a normal life. So whether it was going to the movies, or watching a Fraggle Rock marathon on Disney, revisit the activities that brought you joy. Now I’m not saying that you shouldn’t think about what happened at all…it’s just always nice to have something else to focus your attention on.

#5- Take time to get over it

Allow me to dispel a common misconception. Painful experiences don’t just disappear over night…unless of course we’re talking about Milli Vanilli’s career. So don’t be afraid to take some time to get over the pain. There’s no set timetable, as it could be days or months before you’re able to put it behind you. Just do what’s best for you…not the rest of the world.

The Fly Conclusion-
We all have our own way of coping with certain situations, so please don’t take my Fly Steps as the end all to this discussion. Feel free to glean whatever insight you can from my musings. In the end, the only thing that matters is you being able to one day move past your broken heart.

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