Posts Tagged: success

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16
Feb 11

12 Things That Make Life Worthwhile!

Happy New Year! Around the world, this is a time of renewal, celebration of new opportunities, and great optimism. Please accept our best wishes for a year of peace, joy, and success.

And, note that any time of year is a great time to re-commit to the things that are most important. Our highest values and our dearest aspirations need constant attention, constant renewal, and constant reinforcement. Life has a way of distracting us. We get busy, and we forget who we are and what we truly want for ourselves and our loved ones.

In the spirit of friendly reminder, here are “12 Things That Make Life Worthwhile”.

1. Take time to dream ?it hitches your soul to the stars.

2. Take time to work ?it is the price of success.

3. Take time to think ?it is the source of power.

4. Take time to play ?it is the secret of youth.

5. Take time to read ?it is the foundation of knowledge.

6. Take time to worship ?it is the highway of reverence and washes the dust of earth from our eyes.

7. Take time for friends ?they are the source of happiness.

8. Take time to love ?it is the source of joy.

9. Take time to laugh ?it helps with life抯 loads.

10. Take time for beauty ?it is everywhere to be enjoyed.

11. Take time for health ?it is the true treasure of life.

12. Take time to plan ?it is the secret to getting the things you desire.

Once again, Happy New Year!

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6
Jan 11

The Way You Raised Me

This is a story of two families who lived next door to each other and the way they raised their kids.

The Smith family lived next door to the Petersons in a nice neighborhood in New Jersey. Mrs. Smith and Mrs. Peterson both had sons that were around 3 years old. Eric Smith and Jerry Peterson.
The Smiths were really laid back and they believed in letting Eric just go wild and enjoy his years as a baby because they knew how fast things would change when little Eric grew up.

The Petersons were different, Mr. Peterson would always play with Jerry and talk to Jerry as if he was his buddy from work. They also would tell Jerry how great he was and how he could be anything he wanted to be when he grew up.

When Eric would come over to the Petersons to play with Jerry and the parents would have Ice tea and talk to each other about how their experience as parents is turning out.

The Smiths told the Petersons how Eric would always want them to read to him and how he would take markers and draw all over their freshly painted walls. It drove them crazy but they loved him so it was alright to them and they believed he would learn on his own.
The Petersons were shocked and said that they would let Jerry know that he was wrong for writing on the wall and that he should write on paper. Another thing the Petersons would do is come up with fun ways to get Jerry to complete tasks.

As the children got older, Eric was hard to control and stubborn and the Smiths didn’t know why when they gave him all the love he needed. Eric had all the toys he wanted, all the coloring books he wanted and they let him do almost anything he wanted to do.
Jerry on the other hand was now very assertive and he knew how to get the things he wanted. He was very obedient to his parents and he was smarter than all the other kids in his class.

The Conclusion To The Story is…

Children are like sponges and they learn very quickly when they are young. Eric received love and affection but he never received guidance. He was allowed to do whatever he wanted and that became a part of his personality as he got older. Jerry was brought up to believe in himself and was use to handling tasks because of the fun tasks he always completed as a child. When Jerry got older he was already achieving goals because that’s how he was brought up.

The lessons you teach your children when they are young will have an affect on their future.

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30
Dec 10

Thanksgiving

I was not planning to write this article. Instead, I was going to publish an article about integrity. It has been on my mind this last week and I was planning to share some thoughts about it. Then, I received an email from Jim Donovan, one of the regular contributors to my Prosperity Paradigm eZine, and it inspired me to write once again about the magical power of gratitude.

Yes, the magical power.

Before I talk about the magic of gratitude, I want to talk about its opposite. Not the lack, not ingratitude; but resentfulness.

Powerful emotions attached to specific repetitive thoughts make things manifest. Intentional thought combined with heartfelt desire is how masters and winners create the circumstances and events of their lives. This powerful knowledge is one of the most crucial things a person who desires to be a creator instead of a mere creature needs to know and integrate into their life.

There is a dark side. Just as what you love/desire can come true, so too, as even the bible reminds us…that what you fear shall come to pass. You can witness the power of fear making things happen in many people’s lives. A victim’s attitude often creates events that cause that person to say, “see, I told you so.” They don’t, of course, know that it was their very own fear that attracted the bad thing into their life. The proverbial self-fulfilling prophecy.

It works the same with gratitude and resentfulness. When you walk around with the attitude of gratitude, life does not just seem better because of your psychological take on life, it actually is better because of the magic creative power of intentionally combining positive thought and positive emotion.

However, when you adopt the attitude of resentfulness, things don’t just seem bad…bad things actually do happen more often than they would otherwise. Resentfulness is insidious. Once you start to resent the circumstances and conditions of your life, you begin attracting more things into your life that you will not welcome UNTIL AND UNLESS you change your attitude. Some molehill appears and your resentfulness makes it into a mountain. The next thing you know, a real mountain shows up. Why? Because you attracted it. And now it is harder to be grateful instead of resentful.

That is why masters at the art of living see obstacles as an opportunity to learn, to grow, to become more powerful; and, winners see obstacles as proof that they are traveling the high road. They know that the flat, wide, easy road is the path of mediocrity. It is wide, flat and easy because it is well traveled by the majority who do not aspire or dare to achieve great things. or to challenge life and themselves to deliver more than the norm.

Losers resent winners. You see it all the time. The average person delights in the often public trials and tribulations of the high achievers. Losers do not ‘get it’ that it is their own resentfulness that makes them losers. They don’t get that the winner is grateful not just because things are going right, but because it is the gratitude that makes things go right in the first place.

If you want to be a winner, start being grateful; start existing in a constant state of thanksgiving. You don’t need some annual celebration of some romanticized historical event to feel grateful. As long as you are still breathing, you have much to be thankful for. You have, right now, the chance to make a meaningful difference in the lives of other people.

You have, right now, the chance to appreciate all you have been given. You have, right now, the chance to enjoy the pleasures of walking around on planet earth. Remember this, if you are reading this, you should know that you are better off than the overwhelming majority of other people on this planet.

Give thanks. You’ll end up with plenty to be grateful for.

Happy thanksgiving!

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16
Aug 10

Parenting – What You Do That Sabotages Your Child’s Success Without You Knowing It

This article is not meant for the weak of heart. It is for those few parents who really want to give their children real advantages and real self-esteem. It is written for those parents who are willing to look at how their parenting can unknowingly be harming their child’s self-esteem. It is written for those parents who want to help their child win, be happy and flourish.

Most parents think that they can influence their child’s confidence by giving their child lots of praise, but the real truth is what truly enables a child to learn what self-esteem and confidence is, is to watch a parent demonstrate it for them.

As a child, there is an unconscious learning process that takes place by observing parents and others, called modeling. It is when your child watches what you do and models the behavior you exhibit. Your child watches you all the time. In fact young children often imitate and emulate what it is their parents say and do, even the physical actions of that parent. By doing this they learn how to act, be and function in the world.

Your child is around your self-esteem level everyday, all the time and your child believes that how you feel about yourself is the standard in the world. If you put yourself down, your child learns to make negative self-comments too. If you are a complainer then chances are they are going to be a complainer too. If you have limited negative thinking this too is what they learn.

This is important to understand as a parent because every thought you think has a chemical feeling behind it. For example you think a happy thought and you feel happy. You think a sad thought and you feel sad. Are you teaching your child to have predominantly happy thoughts, sad thoughts, angry thoughts, or worrisome thoughts by your modeling it for them?

How your child habitually thinks will determine the outcome he has for the rest of his life or until your child intentionally changes it. Are you sabotaging your child’s possibilities because you have a bad attitude and unknowingly are teaching this bad attitude habit to your child?

You teach your children what attitude to have in the world by modeling your attitude for them. Is it time for you to change your thinking? Do you need an attitude adjustment? Are you positive and upbeat, so your children learn to be? Do you see opportunities so your children see opportunities? Do you worry about life and money modeling and teaching that behavior to your child? Do you have power thinking or do you have quitter mentality? Are you solution oriented or a “sky is falling thinker?” The term is “monkey see, monkey do.” I do not like the use of the word monkey, so, your child sees, your child does.”

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9
Feb 10

Finding Motivation In Parenting

It’s been a month and a few days since we were blessed by the birth of our little girl, and while 30 something days may not seem like much, our daughter has already taught us few lessons in parenting. I strongly believe these are the most valuable lessons we could get, as there’s nothing better than the experience you gain by actually doing something yourself and not reading about it in a book or taking someone’s advice.

Motivation is always good. You can’t have too much of it, and you can never get enough of it neither. It’s one of the wonderful feelings which move you forward and make you do all them crazy things you’re smiling when you look back at. For some, motivation is just a set of reasons why certain needs have to be done sooner or later. For others, motivation is about being curious and adventurous in our everyday life. It’s a constant challenge.

So what kind of motivation would you find in parenting? What I was really surprised to find out, is that you have limitless motivational opportunities! Obviously, they vary a lot for mothers and fathers, especially in the first few month of having a baby. After all, I was back to work after just 2 weeks, and my wife is still spending days at home with our daughter and she will do so for the first 4 months or so. So our motivational opportunities are different. But there is no doubt about both of us have enough reasons to be and stay motivated.

The thing I particularly liked about our daughter is that in practically all of them situations we’ve had so far, she simplifies them for us and leaves us no choice but to succeed. She gives us plain raw motivation and expect nothing less than the most successfull solution to any concern she might had. She doesn’t think too much yet, she only reacts.

For instance, if she feels like crying – she cries. She doesn’t know why she felt like this at a particular moment, and she doesn’t really care. She just starts crying, and she expects one of us to pay her immediate attention and figure the rest out for ourselves. She gives us a situation and states our goal – find whatever might be wrong with her, and make her happy.

The first few times when she cried were awful – we didn’t know what to do. She’s been very quiet for the very first few days, and then suddenly she got much more active and sometimes she’d cry for a good few minutes and we tried everything we could to make her stop.

And that’s the best motivation you can get out of parenting: your child knows you and expects you to succeed. Nobody else can help, you are the only person able to resolve such problems. And when you stand there above your crying child, practically terrified, there is a moment when you come to realise – there is no room for a failure in this situation. Your child is crying already, so no matter what you do, it will be an improvement. So you do the first thing that comes to your mind. If it helps, both yourself and your baby are happy. If it doesn’t, you make yourself think of the next thing you may try. And so you do, and again there’s a high chance it will help. After few occasions, you learn to quickly sport the exact reason of your baby being unhappy, and you fix it without being so agitated. It may break your heart hearing your child cry as you’re desperately trying one thing after another, but trust me – it’s all worth the result. Because every single time you see a smiling baby of yours, you gain both confidence and motivation.

What you have with your baby are inescapable success opportunities. Our daughter believes in us so strongly that we simply have no other way but to do our best. And to our surprise, this is just about enough to make her happy most of the times! ;) What also helps is that most of the things at such an early age are natural – so when our baby is crying, this could only mean few simple things like whether she’s hungry or not. And surely there are very simple ways of finding it out :)

Finding motivation in parenting may sound like a tedious task. But it really isn’t! Your don’t have to search for the motivation. It’s already there. All you have to do is to try things out and see what the result is. I obviously didn’t cover everything in this short entry, but I’ll talk about motivation in parenting later. But just to give you the idea, here are few more examples of such motivation.

From the early days, you get to realise that this new life you’ve brought into this world is now fully dependant on you. Not only you are to provide food and comfort for the baby, but you should also think of the physical and mental development. This is when you read books and play with your baby. You see your baby grow and react better to sounds or movements. You’re happy to see with your own eyes how your baby recognizes you, sometimes even by the sound of your steps. You’re spending time doing some simple physical exercises to ensure the proper and timely development of your child’s body. And all these activities are both challenging and motivational for you.

Even the simplest things about your baby will motivate you. For instance, I felt envious when I noticed one evening that our little girl had learned to smile consciously, but would only smile to her mother. They had spent so much time together (figures!), that the connection between them grew much stronger. I clearly didn’t spend as much time with our little girl, but seeing her smile so easily to my wife, I couldn’t resist to drop everything else and literally spend hours every evening for the next few days just holding our daughter, talking to her and comforting her in any way I could. I can’t express how happy I was when she finally smiled at me! I had tears in my eyes, because her smile touched me heart so deeply.

I hope I have convinced you today: finding motivation in parenting isn’t a task, but a source of positiveness. It motivates you and boosts your confidence, and it’s easily one of the best ways to have fun while taking care of your baby.

Gleb Reys is the author of Personal Development Ideas blog where he describes his own self-improvement experiments and writes articles on productivity, problem solving, communication skills and motivation.

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Feb 10

Parenting Good Behavior – How to Build Your Child’s Self-Esteem – 5 Secret Tips

Most people think that they can influence their child’s confidence by giving them lots of praise, but the real truth is what truly enables a child to utilize opportunities and feel confident is the ability to think in ways that see opportunity so that your child can seize the opportunity. This has been called possibility thinking. It trains the brain to look for possibilities vs. limitations.

Raising your child with a high degree of self-esteem helps insure that your child can utilize these advantages or possibilities. Most importantly though, is how you train your child’s mind to think and speak. This will be the largest contributor to your child’s success. As a child, there is an unconscious learning process that takes place by observing parents and others, called modeling. It is when your child watches what you do and models the behavior you exhibit.

How you model your personal behavior in situations both stressful and nonstressful is how children learn to deal with the world on a daily basis. In a stressful situation if you personally are a quitter, I do not care how smart your child is or how good their grades are, they will also learn a pattern of quitting by observing you model quitting in daily life.

If you unconsciously seek validation from others, your child will learn, by you modeling it to them, that validation from outside yourself is a must have and then go seek it from their peers. If you model self-command to them, then they too will learn self-command.

If you model fear during a crisis, your children unconsciously learn how to have the same toxic thinking pattern you do. Children learn limited negative or possibility thinking from you and your daily actions because it is the only example that is being modeled to them in that moment.

Parents play a big role in the development of their child’s ability to think in daily life. Whether they learn negative or power thinking habits depends on what you allow daily in your house and what you model for them.

As a parent you are the class room of life. Children learn your thinking style and habits. As a parent, it matters what behavior you model to them every day. In the real world you must model true, authentic self-esteem, not a false sense of self-esteem, if you want them to learn and have it.

Here are 5 steps to modeling successful behaviors to your children

Parents, model desired behavior

You can not expect your child to do what you are unwilling to do. If you do not want them to develop certain habits, you must make sure that you do not model those habits and behaviors for them.

Parents, examine your thinking and speaking habits.

There are six deadly accepted limited thinking and speaking habits that can sabotage your success and your child’s success forever if it continues going unnoticed. You must learn what they are and avoid using any one of them. This will help ensure your child’s future success habits.

Parents, stop the continued daily usage of limited negative thinking.

Even in the smallest amounts limited negative thinking destroys your child’s aspirations and yours before they even begin. Not understanding what limited thinking really is can allow you to use it all the time without you knowing it. Learn what limited thinking and speaking habits you use.

Parents, learn and model self command.

Self-command is the ability to take action in a direction and maintain a powerful level of excitement, focus and drive to complete the task. Learn to drive your own personal power then model it for your children and your children will naturally develop this powerful tool to help them succeed in their daily activities. This will give your child the edge in life. It teaches your child strong leadership skills

Parents, understand the plays in your play book.

Every family has a play book that they use to play the game of life. When you understand what plays you and your child have in the family play book, you can find the plays that have been used to sabotage results and replace them with plays that produce desired results.

Parents, modeling desired behavior for your children helps them develop into strong adults with strong self-command and self-esteem. Your child will watch you. What you do, your children will do. Teach them how to have the life of their dreams, by you having and modeling the life of your dreams.

Vickie Jimenez is the author of “Champagne thoughts and Caviar power The Science of Results Oriented Thinking” and has over 20 years in the Personal Development field. She is an expert in personal and business mind set performance as well as work environment management. She is a speaker, corporate trainer and the CEO of Success Systems Seminars. She teaches companies and individuals how to raise accountability and performance through self-command. increasing production, revenues, culture, sales and career satisfaction. To learn more visit http://successsystemsnow.com